Confessions of a YES addict

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Hello. My name is Abby and I am addicted to saying yes.

I know. It doesn’t sound like a problem. But it is. Some times in my life I have it under control, and other times it absolutely explodes in ways that leave me feeling exhausted and resentful.  I mean, how come SOMEONE ELSE isn’t doing this thing? Oh. Yeah. Because I said “Sure!” No Problem” “I got this!”

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And let me be clear….I really did mean that when I said it. I really did mean yes. I really did have that. In my mind it really was not a problem.

But that was the fifth yes I gave, or that was the first yes but I would go on to give seven more. So by the time I got to the thing I said yes to….I wasn’t as ready as I thought I would be. No problem after no problem can spiral into: this is sort of a bigger deal than I thought it was going to be pretty quickly.

The thing is, it feels good in the moment to say yes.

The thing is, the second I put too much on my plate I can no longer enjoy any of it. I just scarf everything as fast as possible, go through the motions, do the first thing while planning the next and on and on and on. So the things I said YES to, quickly turn into, okay I am here…..but not really.

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Scarcity gets us on both sides of this. FIRST: I sometimes say yes because I am believing in scarcity. If I am believing that I am bound to run out of chances, or if the love will run out if I say no, or if somebody needs to do it (FYI: My name and your name are not SOMEBODY. When you hear we need SOMEBODY to… that doesn’t mean it is you.)

Being a yes addict

You have to say no for your yesses to really count.

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5 thoughts on “Confessions of a YES addict

  1. (chorus of voices) HI ABBY From: Accidental Devotional To: kjgpinelake@yahoo.com Sent: Wednesday, October 7, 2015 8:01 AM Subject: [New post] Confessions of a YES addict #yiv8995371783 a:hover {color:red;}#yiv8995371783 a {text-decoration:none;color:#0088cc;}#yiv8995371783 a.yiv8995371783primaryactionlink:link, #yiv8995371783 a.yiv8995371783primaryactionlink:visited {background-color:#2585B2;color:#fff;}#yiv8995371783 a.yiv8995371783primaryactionlink:hover, #yiv8995371783 a.yiv8995371783primaryactionlink:active {background-color:#11729E;color:#fff;}#yiv8995371783 WordPress.com | accidental devotional posted: “I am writing 31 fighting scarcity. I will be collecting them all at the starting point. I hope you join Hello. My name is Abby and I am addicted to saying yes.I know. It doesn’t sound like a problem. But it is. Some times in my life I have it unde” | |

  2. Abby I love the art and the writing. I’m afraid the saying yes curse is generational. It works better if you only sleep 4 hours a night like my Mom. It is tougher if you need 8.

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  5. I teach this with assertiveness. Be assertive enough to say NO. Every time I say no, I am opening my time to say yes to something else.

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